Random Reminders for the Rest of 2018

2018 have indeed started and I’m okay with it so far! There’s a lot going on and, for sure, more have yet to come. I can feel it. This is the year where I’ll achieve things, may it be the way I thought it is or maybe in another totally different direction. Whatever it is, I am excited for it to happen.

However, with the excitement also comes fear. Fear of failing. Fear of being stuck. Fear of the unknown. Fear of not being able to do your best. And while feeling all those fears and doubts, I have realized something. Fear paralyzes you. The more you entertain fearful thoughts, the more you get less things done. Fear holds you back from your dreams. It’s a two-step backwards from achieving your goals. Why can’t you have a fearless 2018?Β  Why not go for the gold? Why not try to reach the stars? Why not?

So here are some reminders for myself for the rest of 2018. Some reminders that could, hopefully, make me choose to always do my best.

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Ever heard this saying before? Simply put, it means even some Dumb Jane can be useful. Although, I have a different approach with it. What it means to me is that you should be less critical of yourself. If a broken clock is right twice a day then, probably, you did something right on this day. Maybe, with the hundred things you’ve done today, you’ve made one thing right. So, no matter how shitty you might feel maybe it is not bad after all. Celebrate that one thing you made right and improve on the rest. Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s okay to be broken. It’s okay to be dumb at times. It’s okay not to be okay. But what’s not okay is staying that way. A broken clock gets fixed eventually. So should you.

All are called to be great, but only a few responds.

Do we choose where we would be? Do we choose what we would be? Or is everything already written in the stars? It’s your destiny to be there. It’s your destiny to be this rather than to be that. Sometimes I feel that I have such too big of a dream. That maybe it’s time to be “realistic”. You know? Putting you feet on the ground. Take root. Stay. Because if destiny has no hand at all of this, then why are there so many “average” people? I thought it was because it is not their destiny to be great. I was wrong. I have come to realize that all are called to be great, but only a few responds. All are destined to be great. However, the path to your destiny is your choice. It’s your choice not to achieve your dreams, not to fight for it, not to work hard for it. It’s your choice to stop pursuing your dreams, getting comfortable, staying contented. It’s your choice.

Cheers for Beer Day!

This is a bible verse, but before we get religious I think we can still apply it to our daily lives. Well, in the bible this talks about how you cannot love God and money at the same time and at the same level. Why? Because stuff. Anyway…I think, this also say something about our priorities. We live in an age where people are proud multi-taskers, but is it really something to be proud of? On a certain level, yes. Not all the time, though. Recently, I find myself torn between two “masters”. Two things that I should be doing, two things that are completely different from one another. The result? I’m not excelling in any one of them. I’m not doing my best in any. I’m not able to give my 100% to any.

You see, it’s not just about doing things. It’s not just about the work load. It’s also about the way you feel. How dedicated would you be to any of the two? Which is more important? Other times it would be this one, then it would be the other one. Can that really work? What would you prioritized more of the two? Where would you focus more?

What if it is two competing dreams? Because of trying to balance the two, you’ll end up losing both. You could also end up losing one. Then realizing that it was your ultimate dream and you just blew your chances. The take away here? Hindi pwedeng hati yung puso mo. You need to decide.

So, there you go dear readers! Hope some of my ramblings here help! Let’s all do our best this 2018, okay?

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Growing Up?

I found out, recently, that I was indeed growing up. And let me tell you dear reader how painful it was sometimes. Looking back at my work experience it boggles the mind how I was able to survive those days. Really! So I guess I, indeed, grew up!

Looking back at my teenage self, which I am not anymore, I saw her as a person with strong beliefs (may it be right or not). But as far as Β having a strong set of beliefs I believe I lacked actions to go with it. Nowadays, I am resetting my beliefs and I think I am strengthening my new beliefs by my actions. With everything that had happened this year and the last I can honestly and proudly say that I have matured. Boring as the word maybe it is the truth.

I am now on the process of changing residence and I am going to have my own room again. I am happy with this decision. Next year or almost end of this year I am planning of getting a job again while taking my graduate classes. I have reduced tears that are induced by small nonsensical things. I am doing a lot of things and will be doing a lot more. I experienced a lot of things this year and all those experience made me stronger and more matured. Thank you experience, you made me this

I let you in a secret dear reader… being mature is a choice.

 

Loving Yourself

A little boy was overheard talking to himself as he strode through his backyard, baseball cap in place and toting ball and bat. “I’m the greatest baseball player in the world,” he said proudly. Then he tossed the ball in the air, swung and missed. Undaunted, he picked up the ball, threw it into the air and said to himself, “I’m the greatest player ever!” He swung at the ball again, and again he missed. He paused a moment to examine bat and ball carefully. Then once again he threw the ball into the air and said, “I’m the greatest baseball player who ever lived.” He swung the bat hard and again missed the ball.

“Wow!” he exclaimed. “What a pitcher!”

This was a story I’ve read today from Chicken Soup for the Soul. Loving yourself nowadays might seem so hard for us to do. First and foremost we are not little kids anymore, we do not see the world in rose-colored glasses anymore. You see this kid dear reader, he is very resilient. Why does failures need to hold us back? Get back up dear reader and continue the race! Second, we do not proclaim kind words at ourselves anymore. Why is it so hard to tell yourself that you are pretty with no BUTS? I’m pretty but, I’m so sexy but, I’m good but, I’m fine but… stop focusing on your BUTS. Starting today, when you wake up declare something good about yourself. Tell yourself today “Hey look you, you’re so pretty!” Third, he did not compared himself with others. He said that he was the greatest baseball player ever. Stop comparing yourself from others, you are the best you and the worst somebody else. Lastly, he saw an alternative. Nobody’s perfect and the sooner you accept that fact the sooner you are to being perfect. Hmmm, confused? Me too, but it does makes sense! He might have failed at batting the ball be he never failed as a pitcher. See your strength dear reader. May it be that you are square shaped and trying to fit yourself in a circle shaped hole? Stop that dear reader. We all have talents and skills. We are so different from one another. Maybe, you are a great pitcher and you just don’t realize it…

Love yourself dear reader… and smile.

An Account on Being Nice

How nice is the word “nice”? Some would say, how quaint. Are you nice? Or is it an effort to be nice?

A small word for something that can go a long way. It seems that nowadays being nice is an extra effort for all of us. How can we be nice when prices are all going up? How can we be nice amidst traffic jams and city pollution? How can we be nice when we are suffering from being heart broken? How can we be nice, we’re busy! …and all that jazz.

One day while I was eating at a famous fast food chain one of their crew was doing a survey. He went to different table to ask people some of their time and to no avail nobody said yes. Then he noticed me, that I was already finished eating, and ask me if he can conduct the survey. I said yes. He asked me things and stuff, it took us less than 5 minutes. Now dear reader, that was being nice. No effort needed! He did not ask me to do extraneous activities so why not say yes? He asks people when they’re already done eating so why not say yes? The survey is no way near rocket science so why not say yes? Being nice is not an extra effort it is, actually, a natural thing.

As the survey ended he asked me to stay put and wait for my FREE dessert. Be nice.